As a nation we have many traditions and forms of celebration, from the more personal birthdays, christenings and weddings, to the national events like Easter, Halloween, Bonfire night, and of course Christmas, which is soon upon us.
Do you sometimes wonder if we have lost sight of what these celebrations really mean? Has everything just become more of a commercial money making event. There seems to be so much pressure on people to buy the right things, to socialize in the expected way with people they may find it stressful to be around, to follow traditions that they may not believe in, or have no understanding of. Do you sometimes feel you just get swept along with the expectations of others, without really questioning it?
A celebration is a time of remembering, especially the good times, and sharing your time with loved ones or those people you have important things in common with. It is also about honoring the memories of those that have passed and remembering the impact that they have had on the lives of others. Celebration is about our achievements, our milestones, living an experience as a human BEING, as well as a human DOING something that is special and important.
Do these sentiments resonate with you, much more than the commercial side of celebrations? Is the giving of a present a symbol of your appreciation, your love, your respect, and your memory of special times together, or is it something that you just feel you are expected to give, and have had to find the money you haven’t got in order to give it. Where are the loving thoughts and appreciation towards the person you are giving it to, if you resent it, or are now fearful of not meeting your own needs, as you have now used your last £10 on a present that you are unsure the other person will like, instead of spending it on your much needed food shop. However, to even think about oneself, does not feel acceptable, and may be deemed to be selfish. So, the focus of the celebration is then lost on negative thoughts and feelings about oneself and perhaps also towards the person who is having the celebration.
To acknowledge a celebration is it not enough to let the other person know we are thinking about them and are happy for them? Perhaps via a telephone call, email, online card or some other form of communication that is unique and different, which they will remember more than a present that they do not need.
If more people followed this philosophy at Christmas time then perhaps there would be less stress and more happiness during this time of celebration. The sharing of time can also be extended to sharing the workload, sharing provision of food, of transport. Decisions could be made about sharing of only one present each, but finding original ways to create the present or the wrapping. During difficult financial times for many, perhaps returning to some of the simpler times like previous generations, where they had no choice in the matter, may actually be fun and exciting.
When you look at your life, if you see or feel the need for change and you want support and guidance to change contact either myself or my partner, Cate on 01925 658322 to arrange an Initial Consultation. Happy Christmas to all our readers.
