Hypnotes October – Silence!

THE busyness of life is all around us, people rushing around, the hustle and bustle of everyday activity. Accompanying this is the constant noise from conversations, traffic, doors opening and closing, footfall, objects being moved, electricity, and so much more. We become accustomed to all this noise and movement around us, so do we ever really switch off from it?
When we are indoors at work or at home we are either talking, using computers, operating machines or watching TV. When we relax we are usually carrying out some activity or hobby or socialising in pubs, clubs, or within other buildings where there is constant noise. If we are out walking in town or in the countryside there is usually still human activity around us creating noise. So do we ever really experience silence?
Many people feel uncomfortable with silence and need to fill gaps within conversation, if silence goes on for too long. If it is too quiet when they are alone at home they will put the radio or the TV on. Many people cannot bear to be alone and always seek company of others.
Underlying assumptions often accompany silence. If a person is comfortable with silence and does not feel the need to fill the gaps, then they may be perceived to be too quiet or boring. If someone is sat quietly at home reflecting then they may think they are wasting time or being lazy. Silence is therefore often unacceptable and for some people quite scary.
Silence can be powerful and healing if a positive approach is taken to it. Appreciating moments of silence can become an art form. Feeling comfortable with silence in a relationship can be empowering and enables two people to relate on a deeper and more meaningful level.
Within interpersonal communication we use 55% body language, 38% voice tone, and only 7% is the spoken word. We also run our own internal dialogues and emotions, beliefs, attitudes and perception on life which also affects the way we take in information, therefore true communication does not exist.
Learning to be comfortable with silence and becoming more tuned into body language aids more effective communication. Walking in the countryside listening to natural noises or the quietness, practicing relaxation techniques, self hypnosis, meditation, yoga or tai chi, listening to and observing others will help to improve communication skills.
People tend to talk too much for what they have to say and often the words do not convey the message they are trying to give. There can be lots of meaning without words, using silent observation helps a person achieve greater understanding of what another person is trying to express. Reading body language and checking that you understand what the other person is really saying opens the way forward for more fulfilling relationships with others.
To learn more about communicating effectively with others and how to express yourself more clearly please do not hesitate to contact either myself or Cate Todd on 01925 658322 or email [email protected].
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